5 Q’s for 5 moms: NATASSIA VALLI
This is the third week of our 5-part series called 5 Q’s for 5 moms: isolation edition.
I wanted to ask 5 moms I admire to share how their life is right now, the highs, the lows, everything inbetween - and above all else to show that although we’re apart, we’re very likely going through the same kinda things.
This weeks mama is none other than @natassia_valli! We first met a little over 3 years ago as Natassia was a VONBON customer. She would always come in to pick up her order and we’d have a really good chat about the #momlife as Q & Lily are only born a couple of months apart from one another.
As time went on we started to hang out and I have to say she’s one of the most thoughtful, kind and considerate friends. She’s one of my biggest supporters and I love that I can go to her for advice on all things relating to kids/work/blog/family/general life. She shares a raw look at her motherhood journey and everything she’s learnt along the way. So let’s kick things off...
1. What does your day-to-day look like currently?
Honestly, it’s different every day and I’ve been beating myself up about it. It’s been challenging mainly because my husband is still working so I’ve assumed the role of full-time mama. For the most part, I try and structure the day for the kids at the very least and here’s what it looks like:
Breakfast, get dressed for the day, Yoga, Ari naps and Q and I will work on some worksheets and creative play.
Lunch, afternoon walk, Q takes some quiet free playtime, while I have some one-on-one time with Ari, nap 2 for Ari and Q and I do and art or he gets to play some learning games in his tablet.
Dinner prep for mama and TV time for Q.
Followed by dinner, free play, bath, reading and bed.
We just made a temporary move to my parent’s place as well so I’m hoping to add a bit more time in there to get those workouts back in there :)
2. How do you prioritize taking care of yourself while also caring for your family?
When the pandemic first hit I was really trying to get in a couple of workouts a week (even a short 15 min one). But as the weeks went on and the kids got more antsy and harder to keep engaged, that fell on the back burner and it hit me hard. I found during that period if I just even got myself dressed and fresh-faced, I felt more alive and better. I’ve also been reading a lot more, which is something I did before kids and it’s been awesome!
3. Are you dressing or shopping for your kids any differently now, compared to pre covid-19?
Yes! I can say I definitely haven’t bought much for the kids this year and since COVID-19 it’s been almost nothing. Ari’s also getting to stage where he’s starting to fit into a lot of Q’s hand me downs. Q has started to pick his own clothes and he’s got like 5-6 things he likes on rotation.
4. What do you find most challenging about living in these times?
The isolation from our family and close friends is something we really miss. We spend a lot of time with our friends and family on the weekends and even our family during the week, so it’s been hard to not see them. My mom and mother in law are a huge help to us with the kids as well, so missing that extra support in the early days was a transition. I was also set to return back to work mid to end of March and then the pandemic hit and I was just kinda thrown into this role of stay at home full-time mom of two kids and it was a shock!
Their age gap has been challenging as they both have different needs and aren’t fully in the playing together stage, so juggling that has been a bit difficult.
5. What do you want to remember from this time?
As challenging and exhausting it’s been, the extra time we’ve been granted with the boys has been something I will remember. I feel like they both have gone through significant developmental leaps during the last 3 months and it’s been amazing (and crazy) to witness.
Also, something that sticks out is just how simple life really is. The simplest little things like going for a coffee with a friend, having friends over, going to a restaurant, are things I look forward to doing again when I feel comfortable to expand the bubble.
Thanks for being a part of the series @natassia_valli!